Baby crying, parents can “pretend to be cool”
[Health Guide]Children 3 to 6 years old can already express their needs in language, but they often do not do this, but still cry to solve the problem.
In the face of this, as a parent, you must calm down, figure out why your child is crying, and then take the right medicine.
Children 3 to 6 years old can already express their needs in language, but they often do not do this, but still cry to solve the problem.
Sometimes this kind of cry seems to have no reason, and often makes parents inexplicable; this kind of cry sometimes has a clear purpose, and wants to use it to help achieve the goal; this kind of cry sometimes has a provocative meaning, it is to work against you. Face to all kinds of things. As a parent, what you do first is not to be anxious, not nervous, or impatient or angry, but to be calm, because for children, crying is not a big deal;Know why he was crying, and then take the right medicine.
Experts remind that many times a child’s crying is not for no reason, but the parents have neglected their commitment to the child.
面对孩子的哭，重视但不紧张 心理专家黄家良表示，3至6岁的孩子用哭来表达自己的需求，并不是一个好的象征，因为他们已经能用语言来表达自己的需求与愿望，When they do not do this, it is often because the child feels that he cannot communicate in language. For example, it is still difficult for the language to express clearly what he wants to say, or if he thinks that a certain requirement is difficult to be satisfied, crying becomes their “need”A weapon for parents.
Of course, grown-up children still use crying to express their needs, which is related to the child’s personality and family growth environment, the parents of the latter mostly covet the child.
Experts suggest that parents should not be too nervous in the face of their children’s crying, because crying is a normal part of their children. The key is how parents face and deal with the problem.
■ Handling method Cold treatment Make children’s emotions gentle. How should parents handle children who are crying?
Experts say that whenever a child is crying, parents should first figure out how to cry, whether it is real crying or fake crying, crying or crying, or the general crying and crying. What is the reason for crying?
Once identified, steps can be taken to stop crying.
One thing parents need to know is that they can’t hold it when they cry.
If you know that your child loves crying and you confirm that your child is crying when something happens, you can say “It’s okay” and continue doing your own thing, or not at firstIgnore him.
When a child cries, he often asks for help from an adult. When he sees you ignoring him and crying for a while, he feels boring and calms down.
If you focus on your own business, you will be given a hint that “your business is not serious.”
He may come over to see what you are doing or say something to you.
In short, this calmed down his strong emotions.
The child is quiet, and it will be easy to hear what you say.
If you yelled “sympathy” at the beginning, the child would think that something serious had really happened to them, and the old-fashioned way would begin again.
Therefore, don’t “coax” when you cry, it can only aggravate the child’s habit of crying.
Heat treatment: Let the child “talk” to express crying children, often when they do n’t know what to do, they cry with a cry.
As a parent, you should always tell your child how to deal with problems and express their feelings.
For example: “What do you want to do?
Ask the grown-ups first.
“” If you want to use someone else’s things, you must say hello to others, you can’t grab it when you come up, “” It’s a good boy to fall down and get up. ”
Gradually you will find that when the child is doing, he will run over and ask you, “Do I want to ride?
“Can I go out and play for a while?”
“When you develop this kind of consultative tone and talk to others, your child’s mood is much calmer.
Parents need to guide their children to say something clearly, tell their children that they can only talk, and adults can understand, and even tell him that if they just cry and don’t speak, adults will ignore them.
Of course, it is best for parents to talk to their children more to see what the children have to ask them to cultivate their lively and cheerful personality, so that the children gradually express their requests and wishes in language.
If the child sometimes cries when he understands the truth, it is best to tell him “you have grown up” and “should not cry all the time.”
■特别提示 对孩子挑衅的哭，家长要保持平静 专家表示，当孩子的哭带有挑衅味道时，家长如果火冒三丈，觉得权威受到了挑战，继而采取暴力的镇压策略时，非但起不到期望中The effect will actually make the child go further and further on the road of rebellion.
Because such a child usually eats soft but not hard. He cries with provocation, but just thinks that he can’t communicate with words, he will express with crying with anger.
At this time, the parents cannot come to the hard, but calmly communicate with the child, and let him tell the reasons for his anger and crying. If the child does not want to say, encourage him to express, because if he does not say, the parents did notLaw knows the reason, of course, he can’t help him, nor can he satisfy him.
Be careful not to blame the child. Sometimes, the responsibility of the child crying is not in himself, but in the adult himself, but the adult has not found this, and believes that the child’s crying has no reason.
For example, you promised your child to do one thing, but then because of a busy and doing something else, you forgot what you promised before.
But the child will not forget, when he remembers what you promised but did not do, even if it is a small thing, he will cry.
The child’s heart is delicate and the idea is naive. When we are parents, we must first think about the reason and think from the standpoint of the babies, so that they will not be wronged. ■ Parents do not agree to the child’s request in crying. Our 3-year-old daughter knows that if she wants to achieve something through crying in order to get something, such as toys or snacks, this approach will not work.
In fact, we are fair to her. If we reject one of her requests, then we will agree to her another request while rejecting.
Because you can’t always refuse, and of course you can’t always condone all her demands.
After you decide to reject or agree with something, you should stick to it.
—Shan Shan’s Pocket Tips When my son starts crying, I will tell him to cry in my pocket, so that I can save his crying sound, and then I will go again laterlisten.
This sentence often makes him laugh.
Especially when I pretended to open my pocket, then let out his crying sound, and at the same time intentionally plugged my ears to hear his crying, his mood had begun to improve.
—Abu Ma and him communicate like an adult. My daughter is a crying child. I did n’t know what to do before. Later, when she was almost two years old, I found that if I talked to her when she was crying, she stopped cryingNoisy.
This kind of dialogue is when I treat her, when she fully understands me, talk to her, just like talking to an adult, tell her my thoughts, troubles and opinions. At this time, she will stop crying and listen to me.
At this time, I would encourage her to say her thoughts or requirements, and of course, she got a lot of things.
After many times, children will learn to communicate using language instead of crying to achieve their goals.
— Doudou Mom gave him a crying “special seat”. We have a chair specially prepared for our three and a half year old daughter when she cries.
When she started crying, we asked her to sit on that chair first, and then continue crying.
When she was moving in this body, her attention was also diverted, and usually she would stop crying.
—Where is Xiaoyou’s “wonderful” voice?
When the four-year-old Xiaoyu started crying, I said, “Oh, your wonderful little voice is gone!
Where do I have to find it?
“Then I started looking around, pretending to look in the closet or behind the sofa, and put the sound I found in my mouth, and then imitated the grandmother or cartoon character, or the rooster and any other sound I could think of.
Usually at this time she would forget to cry and start laughing.
—Little Rain Mom