Changing roles: between home and work
It’s been more than two years since this company, Huimei has been working diligently and diligently, and has a good relationship with everyone. Whenever others encounter any wounds, she is always enthusiastic and patiently aware of her suggestions and help.But colleagues who came with her and even younger siblings had raised her, but she always had nothing to do with her.
She was very frustrated, but it was obvious why.
Zhi Jian, who is less than 40 years old, has become the director of a large company, but his career is so proud that his family life is not satisfactory.
His wife always blame him for being masculine and domineering.
The 10-year-old son would prefer Dad not to go home, because Dad’s home often means that he was criticized and slapped on the bottom.
Although the problems of Huimei and Zhijian seem to be very different, they actually have something in common.
What they have in common is that they replace the boundaries between home and work.
Huimei puts the personality and behaviors suitable for maintaining the family at work. It is too kind, too kind and conscientious, and it shows no authority to make colleagues (especially male colleagues) who can only look at the stronger offensive.
Zhi Jian is to incorporate personalities and behaviors suitable for work into the home, blindly give orders, will not considerate and comfort, thus destroying intimate and warm relationships.
Shakespeare said: the world is a stage, all men and women are just actors.
However, in different relationships and different environments, we play a variety of roles, from blood-related parents, siblings, children, to lovers, friends, colleagues, neighbors in social relations .Playing multiple different roles at the same time, different roles give us different responsibilities and rights, and bring us very different experiences and feelings.
Therefore, we need to adjust our performance according to the requirements of the environment and responsibilities, one at home and one at work.
Psychologists encourage the use of traditionally “feminine” personalities and behavioral traits in emotional life and maintaining interpersonal relationships, including: modesty, courtesy, smiles, comfort, cheer, love, loyalty, compassion, and good careOthers, rich in feelings, polite, soft-spoken, like children, honest and not deliberate.
The so-called “masculine” personality and behavioral traits are mainly used in work and life, including: independent thinking, autonomy, insistence on stance, commanding certainty, ordering others, dare to take risks, think for themselves, solve problems, be proactive, and lead.Love competition.
According to the characteristics of neutral behavior, it is not traditionally recognized by men or women. If you adapt to the environment, think for others, analyze and judge, you can be trusted, and at the same time, it is beneficial to work success and life happiness.
Liu Li is a good example. She acts on the occasion.
In the board meeting, express opinions in one phrase, avoid criticisms against individuals, and show authority, professionalism, firmness, and confidence.
But when discussing or chatting with colleagues, she makes heavy use of so-called femininity, good communication skills, and affinity rather than authority.
“I’m like a chameleon, and being able to shift gears as needed, this ability is very important.
Thinking about the personality of you and your colleague at work and your partner at home in the last time, did you deal with the wrong situation and timing in the wrong way?
After gradual exploration, I believe you can learn how to handle the role-play between work and family.